I texted a group of girlfriends last night and said “I feel like I want to hold the world together in my arms, until the pieces find their right spots.”



I said find their right spots because to me, some pieces are not the right (and were never the right) pieces.

We, as a society have work to do.

Consistent, ALL IN, make change and own change work to do.


There are lots of blogs/podcasts/reactions being created right now.

You will read, absorb and apply whatever feels like the right steps for you.

May you take on the challenge that I listed above:

Consistent, ALL IN, make change and own change work to do.


One unfailing message I have heard this week is the need for empathy.

Many people don’t understand how to do/show empathy let alone be empathetic.

Brene Brown – a Master in in the vulnerability/shame space – has a terrific three-minute empathy video that I recommend you watch every day.

Yes, every day, until you recite it like it’s your own video.

Watch it with you family, your work team, send it to your friends.

It’s a good starting place.

Learn the basics of empathy.

Learn how to be empathetic.

Role model it for everyone in your life.


Here are 43 resources for us.  Chose your starting point.


Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

Divided Sisters by Midge Wilson and Kathy Russell

Fatal Invention by Dorothy Roberts

I know why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

How to be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X Kendi

Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson

Locking up our Own by James Forman

Me an White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad

Raising our Hands by Jenna Arnold

Redefining Realness by Janet Mock

The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin

The Miner’s Canary by Lani Guiner and Gerald Torres

The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander

The Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace by Jeff Hobbs

The Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon

Their Eyes Were watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

They Can’t Kill Us all by Wesley Lowery

Slavery by Another Name by Douglas A. Blackmon

So you want to talk about Race by Ijeoma Oluo

Stamped by by Ibram X Kendi and Jason Reynolds

White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo

Why are all the Black kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria by Beverley Daniel Tatum

Why I’m not longer Talking to White People about Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge


Education Resources to use with Children

*REMINDER: Watch the content first.  Self-reflect on teachings and your listening fillers (i.e. judgement) Consistently role model the right + healthy behaviors. 

Resources for white parents to raise anti-racist children

Resources for Talking about Race, Racism and Racialized violence with Kids.

Resources for White People to Learn and Talk About Race and Racism



About Race with Reni Eddo-Lodge

Code Switch (Nation Public Radio)

Melanated Conversations

Momentum: A Race Forward Podcast

Pod for the Cause (Leadership Conference on Civil & Human Rights)



13th (Netflix)

American Son (Netflix)

Dear White People (Netflix)

If Beal St. Could Talk (Hulu)

I am Not your Negro

Just Mercy

King in the Wilderness (HBO)

See you Yesterday (Netflix)

The danger of a single story – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (Ted Talk)

The Hate You Give (Cinemax/Hulu)

Twelve Years a Slave


When they See Us ((Netflix)


I’m doing a lot of self-reflection right now:

What part of this mess is mine to own?

What is my role now, to be the change I want in this world?

And what the steps of me getting there?


It starts here.

Right now.

What’s your plan of action?